Its not a real feeling its just a mindset

Hi I identify as ace, if you have any specific questions just respond under your own post so I will answer. And about realising and accepting that part of myself, there wasn’t much of realising, simply, no matter how much I like someone I cannot imagine myself with that person intimately, I don’t understand how arousal works, how it is to be turned on, how can people feel envy thing while watching porn, or looking at a stranger, how can people find for example butts appealing and so on also never had a crush as a teenager I feel pressure to lie that I have some fictional crushes etc I don’t get it

I'm ace as well n nebularomantic so I know this stuff kinda sucks but I wish you luck on learning ab yourself!1! ^_^,,, we are all growing n changing,, n maybe one day you'll turn around n say whatever you labelled yourself as doesn't fit you now n it's totally okay <3 as for me I've generally always been absolutely repulsed by intimacy,, but I'm only a teen so yeahhh ,, as for romance,, I'm not aro as far as I know,, hell hell no I'm a hopeless goddamn romantic not cupio buttt I've always found romance a little confusing,, if you're wondering what the hell nebularomantic is its kinda under the term quoiromantic,, only difference being it's exclusively for neurodivergent ppl,, feel free to search it up,,,,,, it's not well known but it's describes what Ive felt perfectly,,, I'm not sure if I feel or understand romance,, when I've had crushes I wonder if it's very strong platonic love or romance,, how I'd differentiate is whether you'd like the idea of genuinely well,,, dating them,, n in the couple crushes I've has across my young teen life the answer has been yeah !1,, sorry if this don't help much cuz I ain't the most aro person ever I'm simply arospec (as far as I understand) but I'm js yapping heheh,, have a ververy veryyy lovely day ˶˃ ᵕ ˂˶

Thank you everyone for replying!! You guys are so sweet and helpful! Me personally I don’t mind romance in media and I enjoy seeing other people in love but I only had my first ever relationship recently and I seriously couldn’t fathom the thought of kissing them and enjoying any form of kissing. Even the cuddling would make me feel off. I don’t know if it’s just me and hating the thought of any exchange of saliva and hate being constantly touched or maybe I don’t enjoy being in a relationship. But I definitely think I’m asexual bc I feel repulsed by any means of sex…still unsure about romance tho. ANYWAY! QUESTION! If I’m unsure about being aro but currently think I’m leaning that way but idk is it okay to say I’m on the aroace spec..? Sorry I’m still a teen so I don’t have much life experience but anything is helpful